I just asked this question to a friend.
Her answer was just one word and it came immediately.
“Attitude,” she told me.
I completely agree.
I used to own a coffee cup with the slogan: “Attitude is everything.” And success online is entirely related to your attitude and your mindset.
Let me identify how closely your internal dialogue is connected to your mindset.
May I introduce you to the three “oulds?”
They are:
Should Have
Could Have
and
Would Have
People like to pretend that they are Mike Tyson or Mohammed Ali when it comes to beating themselves. No one is as hard on you as…YOU are on yourself. And one of the signs of this harshness is a liberal use of the three “oulds.”
If you are spending your time telling yourself what should be happening instead, you are trapped in a cycle of mental assault that is hard – and becomes even harder – to break out of.
It’s easy to understand why this happens to so many. Everywhere you look, you see people running successful online businesses or gurus waving their Porsches in your face.
Let’s face it…seeing other people’s successes when you are stuck in “neutral” isn’t a whole lot of fun. And it sure doesn’t help your progress in business, either.
May I point out that beating yourself up doesn’t help your business grow. In fact, it may cause it (and you) to go in reverse. In business, “neutral” and “reverse” just don’t cut it.
So what I am about to share with you was taught to me by my teacher, Dr. Dave Dobson. When you find yourself beating yourself up, take a deep breath. Exhale slowly. And learn to laugh at yourself. I promise you, it’s funny. Really. There is no better way to interrupt your thinking pattern. Sometimes, telling yourself a joke, singing a silly song (I recommend “Mary Had A Little Lamb”) or put on some pumping, powerful music that puts you into the proper state.
If you don’t break the state, you will stay where you are. And where you are is not where you want to be. You can’t drive forward while looking through a rear-view mirror…unless you want to smash your vehicle.
What will you do right now to change your state for the better?